These Are the 13 Anal Lubes Sex Experts Swear By
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Having anal sex without a lubricant is like going through your day without coffee: painful and almost always unsuccessful. Thankfully, the best anal lube can make the experience very pleasurable for you and your partner. While you might be ready to dive in with any old slippery substance, we’d recommend looking into which lubes are ideal for anal—because, after all, butt play is not the same as vaginal penetration.
“The anus, unlike other parts of our body, doesn’t naturally lubricate. So, if you're skipping the lube, it's an uncomfortable situation waiting to happen,” says Emily May, PhD, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and writer at Private Sugar Club. “I always tell clients, ‘If it hurts, you're doing it wrong.’ A good, slippery lube is a must if you want things to go smoothly.”
Using lube during your sesh isn’t only about feeling good—it’s also a safety issue. Without it, “you’d be having friction on dry skin, which can lead to fissures, hemorrhoids, and anal bleeding,” Heather Shannon, LCPC, host of the podcast Ask A Sex Therapist,. tells SELF. Nobody wants that.
“The right lube for anal sex is long-lasting,” she says. “You’re going to want a heavy-duty lube.” So, how does one find this super slick stuff? To help you navigate the vast world of lube, we spoke with experts to get their top picks, plus tips on what to look for as you shop.
Our top picks
- Best Silicone-Based: Sliquid Silver Silicone Lubricant
- Best Water-Based: Good Clean Love BioNude Ultra Sensitive Personal Lubricant
- Best Oil-Based: Coconu Oil-Based Organic Lubricant
FAQs about the best lubes for anal sex
Why should you use anal lube?
“Unlike vaginas [which provide natural lubrication], anuses do not self-lubricate,” board-certified ob-gyn Jacques Moritz, MD, previously told SELF. Trying butt play without lube can cause the tissue in your anus to tear, SELF has reported, which doesn’t just hurt—it can also make you more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections (or STIs) like gonorrhea and HIV, he says.
Which kinds of lube are safe for anal sex?
There are three main types of lube: silicone-, water-, and oil-based. All are safe for anal play, but you should know their differences. Silicone-based lubricants are often recommended for anal sex because they last the longest and have a thicker consistency. But if you’re planning to use silicone sex toys in your session, don’t use them with silicone lube—it can ruin the material.
Water-based lubricants are the most common; they’re the ones you’d typically find at your local drugstore. They’re thin, slippery, and easy to wash off after sex. They also won’t leave any stains on your bed sheets, the way other kinds of lube might. But because they have a thinner texture that can dry up quickly, you might need to reapply water-based lube more often during anal play.
Oil-based lubricants are slippery and long-lasting, which is why they’re often recommended by sex experts. However, oil-based lubes can’t be used with polyisoprene or latex condoms—it can cause them to weaken and break (not good!). We do recommend using condoms for any kind of sex, so make sure you find a compatible option (made from lambskin, nitrile, or polyurethane) if you opt for an oil-based lube.
Still not sure which type is right for you? We tapped the experts for their personal favorites: Shannon says she’d pick a silicone lube, given that it’s so long-lasting (May calls it the marathon runner of lubes). Coming in at a close second are oil-based options, says Shannon. They’re also a solid choice for anal, since they have a higher viscosity, and she says coconut, jojoba, and almond oils are all safe bases to try. Still, water-based lube is the best for sensitive skin, says Shannon—she recommends options with aloe and hyaluronic acid for the best feel.
What should you consider when shopping for anal lube?
Beyond the base of the lubricant, there are other things to keep in mind as you shop. A fragrance-free, hypoallergenic lube is ideal for everyone—but if you have sensitive skin or you've had reactions to lube in the past, it’s even more important.
And make sure it’s something you’ll enjoy using a lot of: “The more lube the better. I always say you shouldn’t be thinking there can be ‘too much’ lube. You should want to be on a water slide. It just makes everything better. This applies for all kinds of sex—but is especially important during anal,” says Gigi Engle, ACS, a certified sex educator and host of Internet Sex Therapy.
Which ingredients should you avoid in an anal lube?
All of the experts we spoke to recommended steering clear of flavored or scented lubes during anal, vaginal, or oral sex—especially ones that contain glycerin, which can alter vaginal pH, as SELF previously reported. According to Engle, you should also avoid petroleum-based lubricants (like Vaseline) and anything with parabens or preservatives.
If you use a lube with numbing agents that gives you “tingly” sensations during vaginal sex, consider skipping it for anal play, suggests May. Given that backdoor penetration can be painful, you want to be able to feel any discomfort so you can pause and reevaluate whether you want to continue and/or try something different (like a new position, slower pace, or more lube) before hurting yourself. Tingly lubes can also contain ingredients like peppermint oil, which may be irritating, notes Shannon.
Most importantly, avoid any ingredients you're sensitive to. While that might seem obvious, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by your choices and pick up the first lube you find. Anything that’s caused even minor itching, redness, swelling, burning, or other discomfort in the past should definitely be avoided in the future. (It’s worth finding a lube that feels straight-up amazing!)
Shop the best anal lube
It’s never a bad idea to find new products for your nightstand that could amp up your next roll in the hay. Below, find our easy-to-use picks for the best anal lubes.