Relationships
The One Question You Should Never Ask Your Partner During a Fight
It turns the conversation into a debate instead of an opportunity to understand each other.
By Anna Borges
31 Cute Gifts for Your Long-Distance Partner
We found a mix of practical and romantic presents that say “I can’t wait to see you.”
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By Tasneem Anjarwalla and Sara Coughlin
Love
How Bad Is It, Really, to Go Through Your Partner’s Phone When They’re Not Looking?
Sneaking a peek at their texts can be tempting, but we asked a therapist if it’s worth it.
By Jenna Ryu
Giving Your Partner the Silent Treatment Isn’t Just Petty—It’s Actually Really Toxic
Of course you feel dehumanized and insecure when someone pretends you don’t even exist.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
7 People Share How They Discovered Their Partner Was Emotionally Cheating
“She was quick to start fights…and spoke fondly of a coworker.”
By Kayla Blanton
What Is ‘Retroactive Jealousy’—And How Do I Stop It From Ruining My Relationship?
It’s okay to be a little preoccupied with your partner’s ex. But how you manage those insecurities makes all the difference.
By Jenna Ryu
5 Subtle Signs You Might Actually Be in a Codependent Relationship
And how to regain your independence without having to drift apart.
By Jenna Ryu
You Really Can’t ‘Fix’ Other People—Here’s How to Make Peace With That
Past trauma and hurt are valid, but those aren’t excuses for treating you like crap.
By Jenna Ryu
Is Giving a Marriage Ultimatum in a Relationship Ever a Good Idea?
We asked a couples counselor for their honest thoughts.
By Jenna Ryu
7 Communication Skills Every Couple Should Master, According to Therapists
These techniques can turn a potential blowup into a moment that brings you closer.
By Jenna Ryu
The Best Dating Apps for Serious Relationships, Casual Fun, and Anything in Between
The secret to finding someone great—and avoiding a horror story—is picking one that aligns with your unique goals.
By Jenna Ryu and Samantha Vincenty
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What Exactly Counts as ‘Micro-Cheating’?
One person’s painful betrayal may be another’s NBD.
By Anna Borges
How to Stop Feeling So, So Jealous in a Relationship, According to Experts
If you’re consumed by suspicion, possessiveness, and insecurity, try one of these strategies.
By Jenna Ryu
3 Things to Do If a Friend Is Always Late and You Just Can’t Take It Anymore
Blowing up at them won’t help either of you.
By Julia Ries
17 Comfort Shows to Watch After a Really Bad Breakup
Whether you want to escape from reality, restore your faith in love, or match your gloomy mood.
By Jenna Ryu
No One Told Me How Hard It Is to Date a Medical Student
Here are the tips to get through the toughest moments that I wish I’d known earlier.
By Katie Camero
5 Sneaky Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Relationships
Pushing great people away is a subconscious attempt to stay emotionally safe.
By Jenna Ryu
Is Hannah’s Red Flags List on ‘Love Is Blind’…a Red Flag?
Her fiancé wasn’t thrilled that she outlined his flaws. Here’s what a relationship expert thinks.
By Jenna Ryu
Why You Really Shouldn’t Expect ‘Closure’ After a Breakup
Allowing someone else to control how and when you move on will only delay your healing process.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Bounce Back Emotionally After a Fight With Your Partner
It’s normal to feel down post-argument, but these tips can help you snap out of your funk faster.
By Julia Ries
Can My Partner—or Anyone Else—Find Out Who I Vote For?
Here’s a breakdown of your privacy rights—and what to say if you’re hesitant to share your ballot business.
By Julia Ries
Jennie Garth Went Through a ‘Really Hard’ IVF Journey Before Her 2018 Breakup With Dave Abrams
In a new SELF interview, the ‘90210’ star reveals how the experience put her relationship through the wringer.
By Jenna Ryu
Match made in heaven
Meet the Adorable Tennis Power Couples Competing at This Year’s US Open
“The only thing that counts in my life is going up in the boyfriend rankings.”
By Jenna Ryu
Bawl busters
How to Stop Crying During Any Kind of Confrontation
Shedding tears is a natural reaction to conflict, but these tips can help when you’d rather not.
By Julia Ries
Heart truths
How to Get Over a Breakup, Even When It Feels Impossible
Yes, time helps—but these tips can make the process a little less painful.
By Jenna Ryu and Nicole Pajer