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Doing Nothing With Your Favorite People Is Really, Really Good for You
Unstructured hangs are a lost art. Here’s why we should bring them back.
By Lauren Mazzo
Sweet streams
13 Comfort Shows That Are the Adult Equivalent of a ‘Baba’
When you’ve got nothing left to give, one of these series can soothe your soul.
By Katie Arnold-Ratliff
How to Take Rejection Way Less Personally
The pain is real, but understanding it can stop you from spiraling.
By Julia Ries
You Really Can’t ‘Fix’ Other People—Here’s How to Make Peace With That
Past trauma and hurt are valid, but those aren’t excuses for treating you like crap.
By Jenna Ryu
Feeling fine
Little Ways to Make Your Everyday Life More Luxurious
These small upgrades can help you feel less stressed and more appreciative of what you have.
By Cathryne Keller
9 Ways to Turn Down a Drink When Someone Won’t Mind Their Damn Business
You don’t owe anyone an explanation, but these excuses can help you dodge the nosy questions.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Help Those Affected by the California Wildfires
Over 100,000 people have been forced to evacuate so far.
By Emily Tannenbaum
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Olympian Tara Davis Woodhall Is Still Flying High—While Embracing Her Inner Homebody
The long jump champion talks to SELF about winning gold and making the most of her off-season.
By Erica Sloan
Go big and go home
21 Ideas for a Cozy but Luxurious New Year’s Eve
If your inner party animal is in hibernation, here are some gentler routes to take.
By Grace McCarty
3 Things To Do If You Really, Really Hate New Year’s Eve
2025 is coming whether you like it or not—here’s how to celebrate on your terms.
By Julia Ries
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6 Clever Ways to Take a Little Break From Your Family During the Holidays
There’s nothing wrong with wanting some alone time, even when you’re with people you love.
By Jenna Ryu
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No, You Can’t Just ‘Bank’ All Your Rest During Vacations and Breaks
Experts say you need to make downtime part of your everyday life for it to work.
By Erica Sloan
How the Radio City Rockettes Prepare to Dance 90-Minute Shows All Holiday Season Long
The auditions are rigorous and rehearsals are grueling…but the end result is magical.
By Caroline TienPhotography by Dolly Faibyshev
What It’s Like to Get a Breast Cancer Diagnosis While Training for the Olympics
Here’s how track prepared Marta Pen Freitas to face this new challenge.
By Cindy Kuzma
Need a New Mattress? Shop Our 14 Top Picks
These are the very best options for every type of sleeper.
By Malia Griggs, Sara Coughlin, and Jordan Galloway
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Keke Palmer Is Here to Help
The star's new memoir doubles as a guide to finding—and being—your true self.
By Rachel Wilkerson MillerPhotography by Jason Kim
Is Giving a Marriage Ultimatum in a Relationship Ever a Good Idea?
We asked a couples counselor for their honest thoughts.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Practice Self-Gratitude This Thanksgiving
It might seem awkward, but giving yourself praise is actually really important.
By Julia Sullivan
For Saweetie, Comfort Looks Like Vintage Disney and ‘Thick, Thick’ Socks
The rap hitmaker's ideal day off includes painting, a homemade meal, and cheering for her three (!!!) basketball teams.
By Jada Gomez
9 People Share How They Coped With the Crushing Pain of Losing a Parent
“I reminded myself that while I wouldn’t come out of the grieving process unchanged, I would come out of it.”
By Christine Pride
Why Do I Revert Back to My Moody Teenage Self Whenever I’m Around My Family?
Old dynamics die hard—especially if you’re still treated like a kid.
By Julia Ries
Feel Like the Universe Is Sending You Signs? Blame Apophenia
Read this before you text your ex because you heard their favorite song on the radio.
By Carolyn L. Todd
Why Does Online Shopping Make Me Feel Like Absolute Crap?
We’ve all had that icky, anxious feeling after spending hours trying to find the perfect item.
By Lauren Mazzo
Here’s What That ‘Little Treat’ Can—and Can’t—Do For You
Fancy lattes aren’t necessarily frivolous, but it's important to pay attention to your deeper needs too.
By Grace McCarty